Exploring the shift from automatic responses to mindful choices in parenting.
Parenting is more of an autopilot process. A child is crying and we re-play it and sometimes we are frustrated and sometimes we are in authority. There is an opportunity for connection in this trend. In the current times we have a number of families who are learning to stop, think and act. It is the process of desensitising to automatic responses and substituting it with conscious one to which turns out to be the basis of conscious parenting whose basis lies in the capacity of being aware of emotions, being empathetic, and having control over them. What Is Conscious Parenting? Conscious parenting may be explained as a method of child rearing in a conscious and emotional manner. It requests parents to be aware of what arouses them and communicate directly and deliberately instead of impulsively. It is also based on respect, growth and emotional security as opposed to obedience which is the element in the traditional practices. The style tends to be identical to the Attachment parenting practices and respectful parenting that is founded on the principles of trust and empathy without punishment. In a way, it improves the development of the relationship between the parents and the kids who are considered to be heard and appreciated. Why Mindful Choices Matter Children will know by the way we manage feelings and not what we say. The conscious choice will assist in turning the day-to-day challenges that tantrums, defiance, and emotional outbursts into the lessons and time of connection. Major Strengths Forms closer emotional attachment through Co-regulation Parenting where the children are allowed to relax as they are given by the parent the sense of stability. When parents are reactive instead of reflective they are instilling emotional intelligence in themselves as a lifetime competence that would play a role in making relationships healthier. Finding Conscious Parenting at Home. A person must take time and learn how to implement conscious parenting techniques at home. The points of starting are the following: This also connects to Gentle parenting methods for dealing with tantrums, where empathy and calm communication replace punishment. Favourable blocks to Mindful and Conscious parenting. Previous behaviours are so backward with ease when sensitised. Automatic eliciting responses are stress, fatigue or pressure of time. It is also the fear of parents that one is soft and therefore, he is lenient. The thing is that soft parenting styles of tantrums settlements are strict and not violent. Borders and pity will not be a danger to authority, but it will develop trust. It is also possible to achieve Parenting Workshops or therapy groups to help the parents re-learn the inherited styles of parenting and can identify the sources of the peaceful communication. It is assumed that these spaces are thought-provoking that allows parents to control their emotions right away. Conclusion The evolutionary process of the eradication of automatic responses to conscious choice is gradual. It must only be patient, kind, not good. Families will be able to establish understanding based and trust based homes when they experience active conscious co-parenting and active emotional involvement. With parents being conscious of their actions, the children grow to be emotionally strong even beyond their childhood and their emotional strength is modelled similarly. Visit Vedandi Brahambhatt on Instagram and YouTube to read daily posts, tips on mindful parenthood and professional advice on how to bring up an emotionally balanced child. FAQs Why then is there conscious parenting?It will include establishing a reciprocity and affectionate attachment between parent and child through mindful or conscious and unconscious reaction. What is the place of co-regulation in the context of tantrums?It makes the children feel safe since the parent is relaxed in his/her body language and the tone of the voice that reduces stress and emotional learning. Is conscious parenting effective with children of later age?Yes. The mindfulness in communication and emotional boundaries come in quite handy to the adolescents, but the style can be introduced at a later stage. Do the parenting workshops work with the beginners?Absolutely. They provide directions, the assistance, which is essential and rehearsal helpful in practising conscious parenting.So now what is the beginning of mindful parenting?The first step is to be self-conscious, learn to become aware of what causes you and count to one breath before responding and remind yourself of the fact that you can be stronger than being in control.