Understanding how your energy influences your child’s emotions and behavior.
Kids do not listen to what you say, they feel how you feel. All the sighing, tones, and responses are sending powers that define their perception of the world and themselves. At the most basic level, parenting is a dynamic process. When you create the awareness of your feelings, communication, and responses, you foster the emotional intelligence and stability of your child. The Energy Exchange between the Parent and the Child. Children are emotionally sensitive. They are a mirror of your moods as well as your inner condition. Day days may treat you in an agitated or withdrawn manner in case your days are rushed or anxious. On the same note, quiet energy leads to confidence as well as openness. This is the reason why Active Listening parenting becomes essential. By actively listening to the child, you will provide him/her with emotional security. They are heard, but not judged- eliminating emotional breakdowns and behavioural dilemmas. It is not perfection you have but presence, which will be the greatest influence in the development of your child. The importance of Emotional Awareness- why? It is not about control where parenting is concerned but about connection. Emotional awareness enables you to recognise the effect of your stress, tone and actions on the reaction of your child. A parent who is exhausted would think that he is being defiant when he is not. Your reaction is replaced by understanding by using Empathy and compassion parenting. This brings a situation where feelings are not ignored but embraced to learn to express them in a healthy manner, not in fear as a means of behaviour. Resilience is also increased through empathy. When they are validated, the children learn how to manoeuvre their feelings rather than get overtaken by their feelings. Solving Family Berries with Nonviolent Communication. There is no home where conflict does not prevail. The way these conflicts are solved determines what a healthy family is. Nonviolent communication (NVC) is aimed at compassion, observation, and needs-oriented communication. You also recognize emotions and consensually communicate solutions instead of implicating. For example: Replace “You never listen!” and with “I feel unheard as we cut one another off.’ Instead of saying to stop being rude, say to me I can see that you are upset, is there something we can discuss about it? You become a role model of emotional maturity when you practise using nonviolent communication to resolve family conflicts within the family. Children also get to know that conflict does not imply disconnection, but rather, it implies growth through a conversation. Role of conscious Co-parenting. Parenting is not necessarily a one-man job. Conscious co-parenting makes sure that both parents are on track both emotionally and mentally even in the times that both disagree. Children feel safe even in the face of difference when parents communicate with respect to each other. The trick is in a joint effort: not much accusing, not much co-operating. It is possible to develop a safe space where children and parents can share their needs and solutions by organising Family meetings regularly. This group communication inculcates respect, problem solving and accountability. Establishing a Relaxing Emotional Situation. Every home carries a tone. This attitude created by words, gestures, and unspoken feelings influences the manner in which children act. Start with monitoring your patterns. Do you respond to fatigue or to consciousness? Simple habits like mindful breathing when you are about to have a conversation or taking breaks before you answer someone can transform your domestic power. Keep in mind that regulation comes first before a relationship: your composure assists your child to find him or her. Empathy, clear boundaries and emotional evenness create a home where there is no conflict but instead creates connection. Conclusion Your child takes you as his first instructor. The emotionally smarter your child is, the more understanding and aware of himself you are. With the help of Nonviolent communication, Empathy and compassion parenting, and Active listening parenting, you not only control behaviour, but you also develop emotional resistance. Being a conscious parent does not mean being the best parent, it means being available, patient, and emotionally in tune with your children so that your home becomes their safe and loving place. Follow Vedandi Brhambhatt on Instagram and YouTube, for daily insights, mindful parenting tips, and expert guidance on raising emotionally balanced children. FAQs What is nonviolent communication in parenting? It is a strategy that encourages compassion and openness instead of criticism. It is also useful in the expression of emotions by parents and children. What can I do in order to become an active listener? Look in her eyes, do not interrupt and give response through validation. Without judgmental listening, trust is constructed and emotional security. And what is the meaning of conscious co-parenting? When both parents speak with respect to each other, they are emotionally conscious, and their values remain constant in the development of the child. What is the frequency of family meetings? Once a week is ideal. The Family meeting can solve the misunderstandings, synchronise routines and establish a culture of open communication.Why is emotional awareness relevant in parenting? Since children are prone to picking up the feelings of their parents, self-understanding will avoid projection, and will foster healthy and emotional relationships.